Men who can’t cook, clean, or even do their own laundry are not “cute” and “in need of a woman to care for them”. They are spoiled brats so dependent on gender roles that they never bothered to learn the minimal skills to take care of themselves.
When I was 15 I had a terrible boyfriend who just wanted me to be his mother (well that’s been a recurring theme) but my Dad had to sit me down once and talk to me about it, and he said he didn’t marry my Mom to have someone to take care for him, he married her to have a partner. That’s really stuck with me, and I think everyone needs to consider that more.
Sometimes you end up sending your resume to tinder matches ¯\_(シ)_/¯